Hintons 2015

Hintons 2015

Friday, March 23, 2007

16 Months of waiting

Well, today is our 16th Month Anniversary for the Log In Date of our paperwork to China. Kind of a strange anniversary to have, but looks like we'll have at least 2-3 more. The baby referrals for the next batch will likely only cover a week or so, but we are praying that they will go a little further.

Currently we are taking Chinese language classes, boy is that a hard language! Everything is so hinged on the tones that you make. One wrong tone & you could end up saying something really embarrassing. We are really enjoying the class & the cultural information that our teacher shares about her country. This has helped to make our wait a little more bearable.

Our next big milestone is completing Matt's Sr. Project & then graduation on May 4th!! It seems hard to believe that 4 years has gone by & that he is finally reaching the end. I guess that God has perfect timing for everything since this wait has allowed him to focus on finishing his degree.

Thursday, March 1, 2007

Adoption Attachment Information

As stated in the 'latest news' section of our website, we have been reading up on adoption attachment. I will post some reference links at the end of this post if you would like to do some additional reading on this topic.

We have decided on some policies that we want everyone to know about now (prior to our baby coming home), so no one will be offended when the actual event occurs. Please understand that we are doing what we feel is best for our child & appreciate your support in this. Also, being not only first time parents but also parents of a child who has potentially spent the first year of her life in institutional care, we will be on the cautious side when it comes to promoting attachment. That's not to say that things could potentially be relaxed depending on how everything is going, but we would rather prepare now (plan for the worst, pray for the best).

Our policies to promote attachment are as follows:
1. No one will hold Madison for the first 3 months except Matt or Tanya. If you would like to get close to her you can sit next to one of us on the couch or we can sit her on the floor by us & you can see her there.
2. No one will feed, bathe, change, rock to sleep Madison except Matt or Tanya for 3 months.
3. We respectfully request that visits be kept at a minimum for the 2-3 weeks after we return home. We will plan to have a dedication of Madison at church & a party following so everyone who wants to meet her can.

Please let us know if you have any questions on this. Again, we do not want to hurt anyone's feelings and we appreciate your support in this effort. Our goal is to raise a healthy, happy, well adjusted child and know that you will help us in this.

Reference info:

Attachment in Adoption, by Deborah Gray